Spirit Insights Spirit Advice

C: Hello Heather, I just wanted to say how appreciated your advice appears to be on the website. I was moved by each story I read. This year has been an amazing journey for someone 62 years old and I'm loving it so. I appear to have found real comfort with me, my spirit guides, my angels, my family members who have crossed over. I feel that healing has been happening and the stretch to what I am now has been awesome. It is people like you who nurture and inspire and I thank you for all that you do.          Karen

A: Dear Karen, Thank you so much for your lovely e-mail, it has really given me a lift. Not only for your very appreciative message but to read about the comfort you have found. When one is open and receptive to the abundance of love, guidance and healing from higher spirit realms, the beauty of their own spirit within rises to the surface, responding and reacting with additional love, guidance and healing. I cannot imagine a more rewarding win-win situation and am so very happy for you that you have found it.
May your inner light always be so radiant. My sincere thanks and good wishes to you.        Heather

Q: I have been seeing a wonderful intuitive magical man for three years with whom I have shared many spiritually uplifting moments. Recently we fell out as he moved in and the physicality of the friendship almost became suffocating for both of us. The mutual respect for each other and upholding of the other fell away to what I can only describe as name calling anger from him that I reacted to and the long and short of it is that well, we split. My question to you is this. With other relationships that have come to an end I have mourned in a true way the loss. With this, because there is such a higher connection, I have not been upset by the names he called me which were so out of character or anything. I wondered if this is because I am on a higher plane of love? I have no idea what this means at all. But there is a transcendental quality to my love that carries me over all the stuff beneath me. Can you explain this phenomenom please? Thank you.         Mary

A: Dear Mary, Thank you for contacting Spirit Insights. This transcendental quality to your love that you speak of is not in our opinion a psychic or spiritual phenomena. It is an emotional feeling that you experience strongly. Since our guidance column is not for the purpose of physical relationships, we cannot comment further. Wishing you all the best.         Heather

Q: I've been having dreams with a baby girl. My lover has been yearning to have a daughter, but he is sure that he doesn't want to have another child with his current companion. We have both been drawn together by this somewhat inexplicable force, but our current circumstances make it very difficult for us to be together. We would need to close certain chapters before starting a next. Still, something keeps pushing me towards this man. As if there is something I need to fulfill with him.

My psychologist, who also practices alternative medicine, has been evaluating me through kinesiology and hypnosis. He has concluded that my dreams are actually not dreams, but messages from the spirit world. He says I am drawn to my lover and his two sons because we were connected in past lives. He believes there is a spirit who has chosen us as parents and wants to be born through us as a girl. My doctor has assured me that I am not obligated to give birth to this child. That I have the freedom to choose and that if she is not born through me, she will be born through someone else.

How can I tell if I should bring this spirit to life? If I don't, will this baby spirit come back to me in next lives? How can I tell if I should fulfill whatever was left undone in past lives? Thanks,         Kitty.

A: Hi Kitty. Very often dreams are actually messages from the spirit world. You have many things to consider about having a child. Suppose you gave birth to a son and not a daughter? Quite true that we all have freedom of choice but please remember, so too do spirits. Whether or not this spirit would be born to you in future lives depends on both of you and your pre-birth choices for that future life prior to being born.

No one can fulfill things left undone from a previous life without knowing exactly what those things are, if in fact there are any. Many spirits choose to resolve issues related to their previous life while they are still in the spirit world prior to beginning a new physical life. This is spiritual growth, a part of their progression while at the same time allowing a new physical life to begin fresh. Physical life is often challenging enough without excess baggage from a previous life. Please forget about past lives and go forward in your present one with optimism, trusting your instincts to guide you. We often make choices that we later regret. These choices are learning opportunities, stepping stones intended to help us become stronger and wiser.

How anyone can tell what they should or should not do is through knowing thyself. Get to know your spirit self within through meditation and allow your own spirit to offer guidance in your choices. Kind regards,        Heather.

C: Dear Heather, Thank you so much for your wise words. I believe you are right in recommending that I focus on the present. It has been indeed a terrible burden to think that there are things pending from past lives that I needed to discover and perhaps fulfill.

I'm often visited by spirits in my dreams, and they sometimes deliver direct messages, while others are very hard to understand. I will continue listening to their messages, but well aware that I am free to choose what to do with that information...

Many blessings to you and your loved ones.        Kitty

Q: Hi Heather, I saw you in the Real Women magazine and was intrigued. I've written your number down to call and set up an appointment. At this time I would like to ask a question.

My mother passed away when I was 10 years old, and in the last 30 years I've had about 3 very disturbing dreams about her... the latest one disturbed me for many days because it felt so real... In the dream she died and I was dragged to see the coffin which was almost sideways on the floor. They opened it up and I saw her body in it full of blood. I didn't want to see her body like that in my dream.... I've had similar dreams where I went to the cemetery and her coffin was dug up...

Can you please help me understand why I have these horrible disturbing dreams of her.... I've prayed, cried and begged her to give me signs and talk to me in some shape or form and either I'm blocking it or I don't get her messages. I still miss her deeply and even after 30 years I wish she was still with me...

I look forward to reading your website now that I found it and see the books that you have to offer... please also let me know how I may be able to set up an appointment with you. Thanks,          Laura

A: Hi Laura, Because you have grown up without the physical presence of your mother, and still greatly miss her, your dreams are an effort to help you release all the grief you harbour within. Seeing her body covered in blood and seeing her grave dug up are, in my opinion, saying to you, "Please look, see and accept that she has gone on to a higher plane of existence". As I write this I feel very strongly that in some way you feel responsible for her passing. It may be in your subconscious and you aren't aware of it, but in some way it seems you carry some blame. When you can let go, release all grief and any guilt, these dreams will be replaced by far more pleasant ones of your mom.

Also, when a dream feels so very real to us, it is in fact more than just a dream, indeed it is reality. The spirit within each of us, leaves our body during our sleep state (astral travel) and while in this state, your spirit was shown these visions to help you heal. Please look at the positive purpose of these experiences, the healing and help they offer to you to release, to heal and to not punish yourself for something you are not responsible for. Indeed your mother is in a very beautiful place, and would want you to enjoy all the beauty in your life as well. Kind regards,          Heather.

Q: Dear Heather, My father passed away Feb. '06, very suddenly. He was a healthy 65 years. We don't have an answer to his death, only speculations.

I was very close with my dad, growing up. I was daddy's girl. I miss him so much and pray all the time for his peace and to tell him I love him and will never forget him. It's really hard not being able to see him or hear his voice. I try to clear my mind every night before going to bed, in hopes I will feel him or see him.

I do have very strong feelings about him, some I understand, some are confusing, but I can't ask my family because they don't beleive in the spiritual world. I do believe there is more to life than this. Do I pray for a sign from my dad or is this a selfesh prayer? How do I seek to be reasured my dad is around me?

Thanks for any advice you can give me, I greatly appreciate it.        Darlene

A: Dear Darlene, You are not selfish to pray for a sign from your dad. Spirits hear our thoughts and provided your dad is open and receptive to his new surroundings on the other side, he will hear your prayers. He will hear when you pray for his peace and tell him you love him. Please continue to do so and know that it also helps us cope with our loss. If your dad is not yet aware of his surroundings, your prayers and love will help him in this direction.

To be aware of your dad's presence around you, pay very close attention to your inner feelings. Listen to your instincts, be observant if you see movement in your peripheral vision. Sometimes we suddenly feel warmer or cooler without any physical reason for this change in temperature, or you may feel like someone is lightly stroking your hair. These are all possible signs that a spirit loved one is with us. When such a sign occurs, mentally ask "Is that you dad"? Continue paying close attention for any sign of confirmation.

You and your loved ones are in my prayers. Kind regards,        Heather.

Q: My grandfather died when I was 14, my granny died on the 18th Jan 2004 or 5. I was very close to my gran. I told her I was expecting. I just wanted to know that when my grandad died did he do the things in my grans house, and is gran ok? Kind Regards,         Malcolm

A: Dear Malcom, After the passing of your granddad it can be safely assumed that the things done in your gran's house were done by your granddad. Spirits are generally very keen to let their loved ones on earth know that they are indeed very much alive in higher realms. Quite often they also want us to know that they are still here (in their spirit bodies) with us and for us.

Eternal progress is open to every soul and your gran would have available to her everything she needs to make a beautiful adjustment to her new spirit home. When newly arrived spirits are ready, they do become aware of the beauty and serenity of spiritual planes and thus are often very content and happy in their new surroundings. With many spirits this awareness is immediate and for others, time can be a factor. Keep your gran in your prayers asking that her awareness is now complete and that she too is amoung the content and happy. You might also want to ask her for some sign that this is so, which will serve as proof and comfort for you. Kind regards,        Heather.

Q: Hi, I feel slightly funny about this, for years always see 334, then something screwy goes on with my phone, red light comes on late at night, clicking phone company says every thing is fine, or I look at the clock at certain times and see 334. I'm trying to find the right path for my business, cannot seem to connect or this stuff starts up again. I ignore this to try and concentrate on my so called business and get noises in my left ear, goes away for a while and begins again, what's happening to me? Help?        Dave.

A: Dear Dave, Some one on spirit side is trying very hard to get your attention. Do you know anyone on the other side that you can connect the number 334 with? Perhaps a house/apartment number; maybe some one who passed over in the month of March at the age of 34, or in April at the age of 33. You need to think carefully about all the possibilities.

Since you choose to ignore these happenings, you can mentally tell spirit that you do not want their advice or assistance and to stop bothering you. On the other hand, I think you would be wise to give them a chance. They may be trying to assist as you seek the right path for your business. Sit quietly for a few minutes every day, completely relax your physical and mental states and send out the thought that you are open and receptive, but only to the spirit who is trying to reach you, not to other spirits. If you choose to do this, be patient and keep it up every day and your guidance will come. All the best to you in your business venture and with your spirit helper. Sincerely,        Heather.

Q: Thank you Heather for responding, what I didn't make clear when I wrote to you was that 334 was March 7, a relationship I had with a women this date is her birthday. I left, she wasn't happy about this, it was 3years ago. I started to receive 666 followed by 334 around that time when I was figuring out bills. I still do this by hand or I'd pay for something at a grocery store with ten dollars and ironically receive these numbers, happened for years so I stopped the number crunching but the clock would show 334, tried using the I Ching and can't make heads or tails from this. The phone is unexplainable like there is someone listening who knows I've tried to move on but there is something also the noise in my ear leads me to look at the clock at 334 or the phone. Any way hope this helps. Thank you again.

A: Dear Dave, Regardless of the variety of 'happenings' you experience, my reply to you remains the same. Therefore, I repeat, "Some one on spirit side is trying very hard to get your attention". You can send him/her away or you can learn to be receptive, the choice is yours. Regards,        Heather.

Q: Hi, Heather, For years now, I have been asking Spirit to guide me on my path. To give me signs along the way. I know I am meant to do so much more on this planet than just work for Corporate America. I am an earth angel, temporarily feeling lost, knowing how much good I can do for people and the planet while I am here. I just don't feel like I am picking up the signs and signals like before. I feel out of tune.

What is it Spirit is trying to tell me? Or doesn't want me to know? I am a seeker, so absolutely ready to find my path and take my journey. How do I get there? Yours truly and thankfully,         Teresa.

A: Hi Teresa, Along our spiritual paths, everyone of us will from time to time, encounter an hiatus. This period is intended as one of rest. A time to review and digest all we have learned thus far, accepting what we can and rejecting that which does not feel right to us. This very meaningful time also prepares us for future learning when the time is right. Although we may feel absolutely ready to continue, spirit knows when we are truly ready. Perhaps they are giving you this opportunity to learn more patience, or to revamp your faith and trust.

Often times the signs we are given become a little more obscure as our development continues. This too is intentional as it encourages us to reach a little deeper within, to try a little harder to recognize and understand the signs and in this way we are indeed continuing with our beautiful spiritual development. No one ever said it is easy, but it is worth far more than our effort in the end. If you meditate, keep to your schedule and develop a bond of love and trust with your spirit guides. Know they will only bring what you are ready for and your closeness with them will help you prepare. Keep yourself enveloped in their love, and all will be exactly as it should be for you.

Wishing you many blessings along your journey.         Heather.

C: Thank you very much, Heather! Have a beautiful stay here.

Q: Hi, my name is Robbie. I live at Ettalong in Australia. My wife passed away a month ago today and I miss her so much. I cry every day for her and I feel so empty inside, lost and alone after 19 years together. She was my soul mate, my love, my life. I talk to her all the time hoping she will contact me some how. Knowing my wife, she will try her hardest to do so.

I took a picture of her when she was alive on our honeymoon in the apartment where we were staying. At close observation I noticed in the background on the door there was a shadow or image in the picture. I zoomed in and to the shock of me it was the letter D on the door. My wife's name is Debbie! She was still alive when I took the picture. Can you figure that one out? And yesterday night I was on the internet and I noticed the sound on the TV stopped, I looked at the TV to see what happened and the sound was on mute. It said in red writing SOUND MUTE. I didn't touch the remote control at all, the only way to do that is to physically pick it up, go figure! And today at work! I was washing up a plate at the sink when at the corner of my eye I saw a teaspoon move three inches in a sliding motion across the bench to a stop. When it stopped it was still moving up and down slightly then it finally came to a halt. I couldn't believe my eye's. I rushed and told my work mates what happened and they said that's weird. Now everything I have told you is the honest truth and it's not bull; it's the truth, I swear to God. Can you please explain what's going on? Especially the D on the door in the picture I took of Debbie when she was still alive.

A: Hi Robbie, My deepest condolence on the loss of your dear wife. We are born with tear ducts for a very good reason. They offer an outlet for our heart breaks, grief and sorrows. Please continue using this form of release for as long as you feel the need. It is healing for us and helps us to cope. The letter 'D' in your photo, the TV becoming mute and the moving spoon are all signs from Debbie letting you know she is still very much alive, whole and healthy in her spirit body. Obviously she is keen to let you know that she has indeed survived what we call death, as we all will one day. Our loved ones who go before us, are always anxious to let us know they are indeed well. She will be with you always from spirit side, gently guiding and helping you through your grief. Talking to her is also a form of healing and spirits do hear us. You can do so mentally or audibly. She is indeed contacting you with her 'signs' and will continue to do so as she knows the comfort this brings to you. Keeping you and yours in my prayers. God bless you both.           Heather.

C: Hi Heather it's Robbie, thank you for your reply. Your words of wisdom comfort me to know that what has happened is not my imagination. I experienced everything I have said. I only hope that what you say is true. All our love Robbie, thank you.

Q: Hi Heather, My Dad sadly passed away on 6th of March 06. I found him in his chair. He was 73 years old and a very happy and kind man. My Mum died March 21st last year and I don't think my Dad really got over it. I have a few questions I would be grateful if you could kindly answer. I tried to resuscitate my Dad with the guidance of the emergency services on the phone while the paramedics were on their way, but it was too late. Can you tell me, would my Dad have been able to see my efforts to save him, as I tried my best? I was very close to my Dad and I miss him so much and would like him to think that I tried my best.

My next question is, the following day my brother and my girlfriend were in my Dad's house and they thought I was walking from the front room where he died to the kitchen where they were. But there was no one there. My brother looked round the corner and felt a chill run through his body when he looked and found no one there. I walked in the back door a few minutes later as I had just arrived. My brother and my girlfriend both feel that it was my Dad. Do you think it could have been? My last question if you could kindly answer is, me and my Dad both love boxing and often enjoyed watching it together. Two weeks before he passed we both watched live the Joe Calzaghe fight which was one of the best British fights we had ever seen. I recorded it the following day at my house as it was repeated and started to show the fight to my friend Jon a couple of days after Dad had passed. Within the first minute of watching it the lights tripped out in my house as a bulb had blown in the room we were sitting. Could that have been my Dad letting me know he was there or a mere coincidence?

I am sorry for such a long letter, but would be grateful for any guidance. Blessings and Light.          Alan. x

A: Hi Alan, My sincere condolence on the loss of your beloved dad. He would indeed be aware of your efforts to save him. He would have seen your actions if his spirit was present at the time. If not, then his awareness would come via thought transference. One way or another, your dad would indeed know that you did everything possible.

Yes Alan, I very much think it could have been your dad walking from the front room to the kitchen. The chill your brother felt confirms that spirit was present and it probably was your dad. Your experience with the lights is also another way spirit can let us know they are present. The timing of this experience leaves no doubt in my mind that it was again your beloved dad. He would be most anxious to thank you for your efforts to save him and to let his loved ones know he is still very much alive. Spirit very often want to relay to their loved ones that while they have gone on, they continue to be very present in our lives in their spirit bodies. Know that your dad is with you and always brings much love, healing and upliftment. Please be kind to yourself as you allow time to grieve and know your dad is in a very beautiful, peaceful place. Kindest regards,          Heather.

Q: Hello. I'm a shaman and have been working with spirits most of my life. I know it is tough to get answers for ourselves at times. Because of my calling for this life I would like to ask a question. I have applied for a few new jobs and my question is about my employment situation. Please be as specific as possible. What do you see me doing as a job that will help me to go forward and help others using my shamanic practice? Thank you for your time and effort in this inquiry. Love and blessings. May the spirits always be under your wings guiding you along the way.          Cindy.

A: Hi Cindy, While concern for your employment situation is certainly understandable, the guidance column offered here is for spiritual guidance in one's development and understanding. This space is not intended nor used for personal readings which would be required to answer your work related question.

Indeed, it is sometimes difficult to get answers for self. That too is understandable as our purpose in higher communication is not for self, but to help others. Each evening before falling asleep, give your concerns to your spirit guides, asking for their guidance and advice. You will sleep more peacefully and feel more rested in the morning. Continue with this practice until you have your answers. Pay close attention to your instincts as we often receive guidance when we least expect it.

You are in my prayers and I am confident your path will be known to you when the time to embark on that path is right for you. Good luck to you Cindy and may God bless. Kind regards,          Heather.

Q: Hi Heather, I know the general direction in which my life is taking me but it is difficult for me to call on my spirit guides and be more aware of them.

Through the power of prayer, I can definitely say that I have been protected beyond belief. I don't question the power I have but I do know it is present. Is there a specific next step that I might take to redirect me so that I can fulfill my purpose or should I wait until it is "time"?          Teresa.

A: Hi Teresa, To call on your spirit guides, you need only think of them. Thoughts are living energies and those in spirit do indeed receive our thoughts. To become more aware of our guides does take time, practice and patience.

In meditation ask your guides to draw near, ask that you may be open and receptive to their guidance and listen carefully to what they offer. Many times we tend to hear only what we want to hear, sometimes blocking that which we do not want to hear. Sincere, regular meditation will, in due time, improve our abilities to communicate with those from higher realms. Be aware of all your senses as communication from spirit can come via clairsentience, clairaudience, clairvoyance, through our dream states, thought channels etc.

God bless and good luck to you in your future growth.            Heather.

Q: Hi Heather! Can I ask your opinion on something!

What is the difference between out of body experience and being in your body but knowing you are somewhere else in a different country or environment or even in someone else's house. I ask this because it used to happen to me quite often, I knew I was in my bed going to sleep but then I would see things in different places and hear conversations and things happened within that environment, some good things, some when people were in danger or upset. I see around me objects, their faces and even the rows. These people and places are not familiar to me and have no specific meaning to me so why do I see them?

Also Heather, I don't know if I e-mailed you back, but my previous question was: Do you know how I can develop myself as there are no spiritualist churches where we have moved to in New Zealand? We have now bought a house and it is quite rural. Love and kind wishes,            Julia.

A: Hi Julia, It is quite possible to be out of body and yet be consciously aware of your spirit's presence in a different location. This happens quite frequently during meditation or when one might be completely relaxed without meditating, like when falling asleep. When you saw people in endangered situations your good energy, thoughts and prayers were needed to help and should have been given to them for that purpose. In happier situations, be happy for them. You were seeing balance, with a possible message to you to keep all things in proper perspective and a healthy balance in your life.

With the lack of Spiritualist churches in your rural area, you need to focus on other available avenues of insight and growth. Read books, visit spiritual chat rooms but do exercise great caution and common sense as all are not what they appear to be on the surface. Listen to your instincts and be guided accordingly. Good luck to you Julia, with my kind regards,             Heather.

C: Thank you for your kind reply Heather. My regards,            Julia.

Q: My ex husband passed away in Feb. and now my mother has passed away the 9th of Dec. How can I know they are alright and that they didn't suffer when they died---how can I reach them now?            Pat.

A: Hello Pat, Please forgive my long delay in replying to your e-mail. As you can imagine this is quite a busy time of the year. No one individual is ever born here without guidance and love from spirit, nor do any of us leave here without that same love and guidance. Whether one's passing is due to a fatal, sudden shock to the physical, or they passed quietly in their sleep, transition to the other side is always a peaceful event. If one's physical is in great pain, the spirit can step outside the body where it is very beautiful and peaceful, and where pain is not felt.

Please be assured that loving, gentle guidance was and is available to them both. Pray that they are open and receptive to this guidance and know they now reside in a much more beautiful, peaceful realm. Keeping you and your loved in my prayers,           Heather.

Q: My father (61yr.) died in 1971 when I was 22 and my mother (93 yr.) died in 1994. My memory of my dad is that of a person who was away from home a lot. He was a firefighter and when he wasn't working he loved to be at the horse races. At home he was a quiet man who was caring and giving to me and my brother.

My mom was a negative woman who was regularly nagging him and often me. Shedid not have positive words for most everyone who entered her space. Her influence on me and my brother has been damaging, although I am making conscious efforts to break out of the toxic shell with which she surrounded me. And yet, when she died, I cried and felt deep sorrow and compassion for her.

I'd like to know if either one of my parents is with me in spirit now and, if so, how they feel about me. Many thanks,            Gary.

A: Dear Gary, To answer your question regarding your parent's presence with you, and feelings toward you, would constitute my giving you a reading which is not the purpose of this space. However, I am more than happy to respond with spiritual advice with the hope that you are receptive to that.

The deep sorrow and compassion that you felt for your mother when she passed- over shows the depth of your love and understanding that she was simply not a happy person. None of us are born happy, but nor are we born sad. We each must make a conscious effort, as you are doing, to maintain a positive perspective in life thus reaping a happy positive attitude.

Your mother, for whatever reason(s), did not do this but her very valuable lesson to you and your brother would be for you both to make that effort every single day of your lives. In so doing, a happy, positive outlook eventually becomes our 'norm' with little or no effort at all. It is simply how we choose and teach ourselves to be. Pray that both your parents are happy, send them your love as they do receive your thoughts and know they are in a far more peaceful world now. Blessings to you and your brother,            Heather.

C: Hi Heather, Thank you for your kind response. I have booked a reading for next Tuesday.

Q: Hi Heather, It has been a while since you heard from me. Wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed reading your book. Very uplifting and inspiring. I can truly say that I could identify with and had some of the same experiences as you have. I pray that you keep up the good work for they are truly gifts from God.

Hopefully you can help me with what I'm experiencing now with my brother Terry's spirit, (I just know and feel that it is him). When I talk with him at night before I go to bed and tell him good night, then almost as I've fallen asleep, I hear this sound of energy like a swift wind passing real fast by my ear, so often sometimes almost every night and I feel so much comfort. Some nights I might not talk with him to see if I hear that sound and when I do not, then I do not hear it; and again I do when I do talk. I hope I do not disturb him by talking with him so much or make him upset and worry about me. I hope you can help me. I really feel we have good communication.            Sandra.

A: Hi Sandra, I'm so pleased that you enjoyed reading Beautiful Journey. Thank you for your lovely words. It seems to me that the sound of energy you hear when you speak with your brother is his way of letting you know he hears you.

Spirits are around and about us to help and assist where and when they can. He would certainly be concerned though if you dwell too much on his passing rather then living in the present of your own physical life. All spirits wish for us to be happy and to live positive, meaningful lives. You will not upset him by speaking with him, but do make every effort to maintain a healthy balance of the time and energy you expend towards this purpose. Kind regards to you,            Heather.

Q: I would love to believe in a spirit world. The religion I was brought up in deemed it all demonic though and so I find myself very, very keen and interested, but still scared none-the-less.

Was there a family member 'with' me when I was pregnant with, and for a short while after my 3rd child was born? If so, why don't I feel that spirit with me anymore?

Can anyone visit a spiritualist church? How do you introduce yourself to these people?

A: Hi and thank you for contacting us with your interesting questions. As one embarks on any new path in life being scared is very, very normal. More so when that path introduces us to continued life beyond this physical one. I can honestly attest to 'shaking in my boots' the first time I saw a spirit with me.

Your very keen interest comes from somewhere and I suggest that your own spirit within you (that eternal part of you that will continue to exist beyond your physical life), or perhaps your guardian angel is trying to encourage you to find your own truth. That truth which brings you total harmony within yourself.

Yes there would have been a spirit with you during your third pregnancy as spirit is always with us. No one walks this physical journey alone as we all have guides and loved ones with us. I cannot say that a family member was with you but I can tell you with absolute certainty that the spirit with you was there to guide, assist and help where possible. Different spirits will be with us at different times in our life. As our need for guidance and learning changes, so to do the spirits around us change.

All spiritualist churches are fully open and welcoming to all who wish to attend, regardless of their personal belief system. Spiritualism is considered by many to often times enhance and extend their own personal beliefs. Please do not worry about introducing yourself. If you attend a spiritualist church anywhere, I know you will receive a warm, friendly welcome with no strings attached.

I truly hope this serves as some help to you and that you will write again at any time you feel so motivated. Kindest regards to you,              Heather.

Q: Hi Heather, xx, I wondered if you could tell me how it is possible to hear and see your loved ones who pass over (if your lucky) but yet not be able to hear and see your spirit guides? I know my spirit guides have been in the after life a lot longer than my loved ones and I also know that at the moment messages come from my mum and my grandad which is her dad. But I would dearly love to meet my guide or guides. Am I blocking them in some way, or do they not wish to meet me yet, or is it that I have so much more for them to teach me before they meet me?

Life is such a wonderful gift isnt it! I am amazed at how much spirit has taught me without sometimes even realising it, and I find it so completely astonishing the means and ways that they answer me, not always by words and sight but by everyday things, and words that are said through others. I wish everybody could see and understand how much of their life would be full of pure sun light if they only realised the gift of life and how much love we have from above and all around us every minute of the day, even when we are at our lowest. Though we don't always see it, they are always there. Lots of love and kind regards,             Julia.

A: Hi Julia, It is the bond of love that unites spirits of different planes. When such a bond is established with those whom we share our physical journey, their energies are familiar and thus more quickly recognizable to us when they return home to spirit life. It is our extra sensory perception that allows us to see, hear and/or sense their presence.

It is the same bond of love that unites us with our guides and they with us. The major difference is that we do not use extra sensory perception to first meet our guides. Our higher-self, that is our spirit-self within, has that bond of love with our spirit guide. To connect, we must awaken our own spirit within, who acts as a medium between the physical realm and higher spirit realms. Regular, sincere meditation will, when the time is right, open one's inner door to their higher-self. Kindest regards,             Heather.

C: Thank you Heather for your kind response to my e-mail. I hope one day I can be of service to spirit as you are. You are an inspiration to this sometimes sad world. I wish you all the love and light, xxxx. Kind regards,             Julia.

Q: My wife has had unsettled sleeps, more often than not. She feels that someone is coming to do her harm. and wakes up in a panic. Recently upon one of these disturbing intrusions, she described the entity as male, with a dark robe with stars on it. It disturbs her so much, that she has difficulty falling back to sleep. The few times that I miss my sleep, it is most tiring. I have know idea how my wife is able to cope, losing so much sleep.

Do you have any advice that could help my wife? Thank you,         Gord.

A: Dear Gord, Please suggest to your wife that she have a chat (via her thoughts) with her guides and loved ones on the other side each evening before falling asleep. She must state very clearly what she will, and what she will not accept during her sleep state. One suggestion is to send out the thought that any entity who comes with her God's love and blessing is welcome. Those spirits who do not are not allowed in her enegy field.

It sounds like your wife may be quite open to other realms and if so, it is most important that she protect herself from undesirable entities. If a rude, obnoxious person should enter our home here on earth, it would not take us long at all to show them out. This principle remains the same with visitors from spirit. She must be firm and very simply not allow any spirit near who lacks the loving, peaceful comfort that higher evolved spirits eminate. Kind regards to you both,              Heather.

Q: Hi Heather, I have written before, but I know you are busy. Please, please help me, I am very low. My mum died in Dec 2003 and lots of spiritual things have happened. She also came to visit me in May 2004. I have always known that I was able to speak to spirit from a young age and when mum died lots of things happened, but for some reason they have stopped happening.

I have recently moved to New Zealand from England and am feeling so lonley and lost. I've joined a church but cannot seem to settle. My mum told me that by the time the end of 2005 came I would be hearing and seeing clearly. I feel so lost and alone, I don't no which way to turn. Am I trying to hard or not enough? I dont even seem to be able to meditate anymore and all I do is cry more everyday. What is up with me? Why have spirit left me and were am I going wrong Heather! God bless & kind regards,        Julia.

A: Hi Julia, It is important not to rule out our physical health when feeling low. It might be a good idea to see a doctor and have a thorough physical to ensure blood, sugar and cholesterol levels are where they should be. Also be sure to maintain a healthy diet, lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and a good quality daily vitamin.

You have experienced major adjustments in the past two years. Please be kind and gentle with yourself while you continue through the grieving process. Spirit are very near to you, have not left you and each day, bring loving, healing energies to you. However, it can be difficult to be aware of this when we are not feeling up to par, but please know they are indeed with you.

Rather than try getting into a full meditation again, work up to it through a daily five minute program of just a few slow deep breaths, and relaxing your body. This can be done each evening when in bed, before falling asleep. You will sleep better, feeling more rested in the morning and slowly you can work up to where you are ready to sit and meditate more fully on a biweekly or weekly schedule. I do not think you are doing anything wrong, but rather are experiencing a more emotional time which makes it more difficult to communicate with spirit.

You have moved to a very beautiful country. Get outside as often as you can during the day and breath in that beautiful sea air and Kiwi sunshine. Invite spirit to draw even closer, joining you as you calm and relax yourself so you may once again sense their presence. Also, throughout spiritual development it is quite common to hit a plateau occasionally, where we feel we are stagnant in our growth. This hiatus is to allow us time to absorb and understand all we have learned thus far, and to prepare us for further learning. Enjoy the rest and go forward with the same love and respect for spirit as they bring to you. Wishing a bright, happy future,        Heather.

C: Julia, I greatly appreciate your lovely thank you note and apologize for not posting it here. Silly me, I deleted it prematurely.               Heather.

Q: Hi there, I came across your website and was hoping that someone could answer my question. I live in a 95 year old home. From day one that I viewed the house, it instantly gave me such a "home" feeling that I had to have it, so we bought it. It stills gives me such a belonging and peaceful feeling that I find difficult to describe in words.

Many times I hear footsteps in the night, the door to the basement or laundry room closing (sometimes even slamming), the doorknob rattling as if someone were trying to open it, or the wood floors creeking as if someone were walking around.

Just yesterday, during the day, I was in the kitchen when I heard shuffling of feet behind me as if someone walked into the room (I was home alone).....there was nothing to be seen when I turned around. Would you know whom these spirits may be? I do not feel fear, I just know they are there, and enjoy them being there.

How does one know whom their spirit guide(s) are? I hope you can answer my questions. I look forward to hearing from you.         Margaret.

A: Hi Margaret, How very lovely that you can sense the beautiful feelings within your home. It is quite possibly that these feelings emanate from faint memories of a previous incarnation, directly or indirectly connected to your present home. Perhaps you once had a happy childhood there, or somewhere that this home brings those subconscious happy feelings closer to your conscious mind.

It is wonderful to read that you do not feel fear with the presence of these spirits. They are connected to your home through their previous physical life and perhaps to you also. It is perfectly normal for them to stop in occasionally but they should not be permanent residents. At those moments when you know they are there, use your thoughts to communicate with them. Let them know that as long as they respect your home, (no slamming doors etc.) that they are welcome. Also, I suggest you encourage them to look for the Light that beckons to them. As they draw closer to this Light, they will recognize a loved one that they are truly happy to see once again. Then they can be guided to their true and rightful place on a higher, more beautiful plane. You may encounter reluctance from them at first but do reassure them that they are welcome to return for a visit anytime and in fact, you hope they do.

The books you have ordered are excellent choices to help you connect with your guides, and they with you. Please do write again if any questions arise. Kind regards,     Heather.

Q: Hi Heather, I have 4 questions of concern. In a physical circle, when the medium in the cabinet is coming out of trance, should the controller speak to the medium straight away or wait for the medium to speak? Is there any safety concerns for the medium should glasses of water be taken into a seance room, or could glass be a safety issue? Should you be told by the controller not to eat, or drink tea or coffee for 3 hours before going into circle and can ectoplasm burn you if you wear a neckchain into the seance room.  T.J.K. A: Dear T.J.K., Physical phenomena is an area of great interest to me but one that I have not yet had a great deal of experience. Therefore, I have asked Spirit for their assistance in replying to your questions.

1. The medium involved is the best one to answer this according to his/her own needs, likes and dislikes. Otherwise, it is our advice that all in the circle should remain still and quiet until the medium shows signs of returning. This will be evident, as the medium will often move slightly to adjust his/her seating position. There will also be facial movement, usually around the mouth area. After seeing these signs, it would be permissable for the person in charge of the circle to speak softly to the medium, to insure he/she is returned, safely and soundly.

2. The medium may well appreciate a drink of water on returning to the physical. If so, one should be readily available. The concern with other glasses of water is the disturbance while sitters move about in their chairs groping in the dark for their glass. This can be disruptive to the energy and dangerous if there is ectoplasm about. The glass itself is not a safety issue.

3. There are general guidelines to personal comfort regarding food, beverage and clothing. These are exactly that; guidelines only and should not be considered hard rules. Each sitter has a responsibility to arrive relaxed and comfortable, prepared to contribute to the circle. Thus, each sitter must find their own comfort zone. While a heavy meal is not recommended, nor should one attend on an empty stomach. Our suggestion is a light meal which may well include an enjoyable cup of tea or coffee.

4. No, ectoplasm does not burn.

If you take a look at our links page, you will find the address of a wonderful site dedicated to physical mediumship. Kind regards,         Heather.

Q: I am a medium, I communicate with spirit guides, and people who have crossed over. I know that it is a purpose in life for me to use this gift to help other people communicate with their loved ones. However, I can't seem to figure out how to go about it. Can you give me some advice? Thank you.          Angela.

A:Dear Angela, Thank you for visiting Spirit Insights. To help other people communicate with their loved ones on the other side, you would need to teach them how to develop their own innate gifts. This could be through a home development circle, or one could establish a development class outside the home. I would caution however, that anyone taking on group teaching should be a very experienced, strongly-developed medium.

Perhaps what you really want to know is how to become a working medium. That is, you do the communicating for your visitor with their loved ones in spirit. You would not be helping your visitor to communicate. When you are truly ready for this, spirit will show you the way. In the interim, practice, practice, practice. Offer your services to your friends, co-workers, neighbours; to registered charities for fund raising events, etc.etc. Look for Spiritualist Associations, churches and groups in your area and get involved. Give to your community just as spirit has given to you.

Blessings to you in all your endeavours.          Heather.

Q: There's one thought that bothers me that you could maybe help me with. In between my two husands, I lived with a man for a year. A year to the date we lived together, he was driving me somewhere with one hand and assaulted me with the other. I had blood all over my face and bruises on my chest. The law helped me get out of that situation instantly. This man has just died from brain tumor problems. I figure it's his 'just desserts' but that seems mean. It's the way I feeel though.

I belive that we can't kill energy. It goes on to live somewhere else - some people think the place is heaven or hell. I don't care, I just know that good souls are on my shoulder helping me. I'm now worried that there's any way this assaulting creep could have a soul that's planning to do evil to me.

The good souls would protect me, but that interferes with their own journey. I want their help when needed, but I don't want to interfere with their being - wherever it is. Any thoughts to help me?          Marilyn.

A: Dear Marilyn, You are absolutely right that you are well protected by good souls. There is no need to be concerned about this spirit planning you harm from the other side. With your protection, and your own positive mind-set, negative spirits cannot get close enough to you to do harm. Your door to those kinds of spirits is closed. As long as you continue to keep it closed, not allowing or inviting negative energy, then you have nothing to worry about.

You can reinforce this by praying for him. Ask that he be open to accept the help and guidance he needs to better his life in the spirit world and thus grow in a more positive and loving manner.

Your spirit guides, loved ones and protectors who are with you from the other side, are so by their own choice. They are with you because they choose to be. As such this does not interfere with their journey in any way whatsoever, but rather through helping others, their own journey can only be enhanced. Set your worries aside, maintain a positive, loving attitude toward all humanity, even those who have caused you hurt and continue in your own beautiful progression for all things good. Take good care,          Heather.